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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 31
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Take a look around your home. Are there memories of him
everywhere? Would it be easier to leave those memories
behind? If you're able to move to a new city -do it! If
not, move across town.
All of this is intended to keep your body busy and your
mind occupied.
6. Keep a journal.
This is an excellent tool to help you heal from the
relationship. In one section, put down all the positive
things that you want to do for yourself. In a different
section record your negative emotions and the things you
hated about the relationship. Read it when you're feeling
blue and thinking of calling him. It will remind you about
how bad things really were and when you're feeling weak, it
will give you strength.
7. Make a list of goals.
This should be a list of things you'd like to accomplish -
from small to big, and short-term to long-range goals.
Don't view this as a "wish list." If you set a goal with no
intention of acting on it, then it's merely a wish. Focus
on fun and interesting things.
A small goal might be going to a movie by yourself each
week or redecorating your bathroom. A big goal might be to
get a new job, get a degree, or run the New York Marathon.
Make sure your goals are not too easy, or too difficult,
make them reasonably obtainable. Reaching your goals will
help to reinforce your self-worth. Mixing both large and
small goals will allow you to consistently see positive
results.
8. Re-establish your friendships.
Re-kindle those relationships you let go, or make new
friends. Throw a party: a wine-tasting party or a tree-
trimming party. Planning a party around the holidays will
require you to focus your attention on the party and help
to keep your mind off of him.
9. Become spiritual.
Spirituality does not necessarily mean going to church,
synagogue or other place of worship. Spirituality in this
sense means getting in touch with yourself This may include
going to religious
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events, but it may also mean taking up yoga or meditation
or getting closer to nature. Commit a certain amount of
time each day to enjoying the essence of life.
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