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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 30
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Accept no more gifts. Return letters unopened, or throw
them out. If you accept financial assistance from him,
stop. Move out of his rented apartment, stop taking money
from him. Cut people off or walk away when his name comes
up in conversation.
3. Stop obsessing about him.
Stop fantasizing. Stop talking to your friends about him.
Begin to control your thoughts. Every time you think or
dwell on him -stop. Change your thought patterns. When you
control your thoughts you automatically begin to control
your emotions. Every time you think of him, get up, go to
the gym, watch TV, read a book, take a walk. To change your
thought pattern will take much practice. Thankfully, you
are 100% in control of your thoughts.
4. Seek outside help.
Getting outside help means reaching out. This is a
necessary step for many women. Seek professional help, such
as a therapist, and/or read self-help books (see Suggested
Readings), and/or listen to self-help audio tapes in your
car or at home. Join a support group or start one.
5. Start a "new life."
Start doing wonderful things for yourself. Pamper yourself
-get a facial, massage, manicure, new hair cut. Take a
bubble bath. Buy yourself a dozen roses.
Take up a sport. What have you always wanted to do? Try
skiing, hiking, scuba diving, roller blading, golf. What a
great way to meet new people!
Take a class. Learn a new language, cooking, painting.
Go to a museum, play or concert.
Do volunteer work in your free time. Volunteer at a
homeless shelter, a hospital, an AIDS residence. Giving to
others less fortunate than yourself will give you a new
perspective.
Join a gym. You'll look and feel healthier and it's great
for your body, mind, and soul.
This Affair is Over!
Get a dog, cat or other pet. This will certainly keep you
busy; plus, they attract other people and they give you
something to talk about to new acquaintances.
Take a vacation. Try a vacation spot that caters to
singles.
Get involved in your work. Set your sights on a promotion,
or enhancing your present position, or apply for a new job.
Move or relocate. You may consider this a drastic measure.
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