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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 3
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other identifying information have been changed to protect
their anonymity. For the sake of brevity, the people
introduced are a compilation of many stories.
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This Affair is Over!
CHAPTER 1
About Affairs....
It ever has been since time began,
And ever will be, till time lose breath,
That love is a mood -no more -to man,
And love to a woman, is life or death.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox
1850-1919
ost extramarital affairs are between married men and
single women. Most women are between the ages of 20 and 40
(65%) when their affair starts, while the men are between
30 and 40 years old (78%). A small percentage of men fail
to disclose that they are married at the start of the
affair. In cases where the woman has later found out that
her lover is married, it may be too late. She may already
be too emotionally vested in the relationship.
In most instances, involvement in an affair is not usually
deliberate. That is to say, most affairs just "happen." The
participants are in the right place at the right time. Many
affairs evolve from friendships or work situations.
The reasons for involvement take on many forms. Women have
cited they were looking for something new and exciting,
they were looking to fill a void in
This Affair is Over!
their lives, or they were looking for happiness. Herein
lies a major lesson -many women that are involved in
affairs are looking outside of themselves for fulfillment.
We all know this to be an impossible task. No one else can
fulfill us or make us happy. It is entirely up to us. It is
entirely up to you.
Fully one third of the women interviewed for this book
stated that they became involved because they were "pursued
relentlessly" by the man involved. Other reasons for
involvement include boredom, "just sex," mutual attraction
and conquest.
Her story:
Debra was involved with Frank for two and a half years.
They were friends for two years prior to any romantic
involvement and Debra knew from the start that Frank had
been married for over 10 years. Frank began to aggressively
pursue her during a particularly vulnerable period in her
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