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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 27
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by them. Some of the reasons the men left were: they found
another lover, their wives found out and gave them an
ultimatum -the man chose the wife, the girlfriend gave him
an ultimatum -and he chose the wife, and one man who
realized he was making a mistake and said, "I don't know
why I started this. I must be crazy."
In some cases, the parting is mutual. Each party realizes
they are not getting the fulfillment they desire, and they
choose to end an affair that is going nowhere.
It didn't matter whether the affair had been over for six
months or 10 years, the emotions expressed by the women
were similar when asked how they felt now that the affair
was over. Immediately following the end of the affair, many
said that they were angry and resentful; but stressed that
anger can be good in that it can be motivating, and in many
cases the anger they felt helped them to maintain their
determination not to return to the
This Affair is Over!
affair. Many expressed relief and acceptance, and a few
said that, after a time, they were happy it was over.
Of those women involved in affairs that lasted a year or
more, all said that they felt they had wasted too much
time. Those women that entered into the affair because they
were pursued by the man, expressed sentiments of being used
or duped.
Observations and Conclusions
Men who are involved in extramarital affairs all share one
characteristic. They are liars. They lie to their wives,
they lie to themselves and believe it or not, they even lie
to you. When you attempt to end your relationship, you will
hear all sort of lines intended to win you over. Your lover
will say whatever he thinks you need to hear -"My wife and
I don't sleep together; I've never loved anyone the way I
love you; I've never made love to any woman the way we make
love; I've never cheated on my wife before; I've spoken
with an attorney; Look at all I've done for you," and so
on. Interestingly, if your lover cannot win you over with
guilt -"I'll be ruined financially; My family will disown
me" -he'll switch to pity -"My wife has cancer and I can't
leave her (the girlfriend later found out his wife never
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