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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 25
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for me, or because of me. I cry now mostly because I feel
sorry for myself. That's why I started therapy, I couldn't
stand the crying, I couldn't stand the hopelessness. That's
the thing. I felt hopeless."
Betrayal -The incidents of betrayal cited by the women
surveyed run the gamut from contracting a venereal disease
from the lover, to finding out the
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lover had gotten another woman pregnant -and left his wife
for the pregnant woman, to losing the lover to another
lover. Some cases of betrayal might be considered extreme
and some might be considered trivial, but they are all
significant to the woman who is experiencing them. One
lover took his girlfriend to dinner to tell her he had
asked his wife for divorce. She was thrilled. Her mind
raced, imagining all the wonderful times they would soon
have together. The lover then announced that his wife had
said no, and so he wouldn't be getting divorced after all.
Jealousy -"Jealousy is a bad emotion," stated Tracy, "it's
probably the worst emotion. I was jealous of his wife. I
know that sounds crazy, she should have been the one
jealous of me, but I felt that she was my rival in every
way."
Christiana said, "I was jealous when I found out what he
bought her for Christmas or her birthday. Twice, when I had
bought something for myself skis and golf clubs -he went
out and bought those things for her. I love sports, and so
does he, but instead of enjoying those things with me, he
wanted her to get involved in them. Aside from the big
things, like presents and vacations, I was even jealous
that they would wake up in the morning and have a cup of
coffee together."
Brenda stated, "I couldn't stand the jealousy I felt when
he would leave my bed to go home to her. The pain was
unbelievable."
In Retrospect
"I was afraid to break it off with him, because I was
afraid there was no man that could compare to him, or that
I would never have the same feelings for another man," said
Christiana. "I know now that that was all in my head. I
know that I'm not special to him -I'm just another woman.
My affair caused me a lot of pain. I'm still in a lot of
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