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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 24
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wouldn't leave his wife for me. I would do it for him, if
the situation was reversed. I kept comparing myself to his
wife, wasn't I prettier? Didn't I treat him better? He
always told me I did. I guess I was in so much pain, I
wanted him to be in pain too. I couldn't make him do what I
wanted, but I could control what happened to me, and in a
crazy way, make him pay for the pain that I was in."
Loneliness -"I realize that I'm not in a real relationship
during those times when I should be happiest," stated Lois.
"When I get an A in school, I want to share it with Ted,
but I can't always call him when I want to. At Christmas
time, and other holidays, I try to make the children wait
until he comes over before we celebrate, but it's getting
harder as they get older. I'm really busy during the day
with the kids and school, and Ted is really good about
being here in the evenings, so most of the time I don't
feel lonely until late at night, or, like I said, during
times when I want to share something good or happy with
Ted, and he's not there for me."
Bouts of Crying -Virtually every woman surveyed stated
that she cried, or was near tears, a large percentage of
the time. "It's a combination of loneliness, desperation,
feeling dejected and unlovable. It's all sorts of feelings
that you don't know how to express, or overcome, and you
just end up crying," says Brenda.
Christiana says, "I cried because I couldn't tell the
difference between the truth and the lies. He would tell me
he couldn't take it any more, and he was leaving her, and
then three or four weeks would go by and he wouldn't bring
it up again. I cried because I felt I had no control over
what was happening. He had all the control in the
relationship. In some ways he still does. I cried because I
was extremely depressed. I was obsessed with him and what
he was doing -was he making love to her? Were they out to
dinner together? I cried every time they went on vacation".
"I cry now because I'm sad that I believed him for so long
and lost sight of myself. I cry because I'm still in love
with him, but I've accepted the fact that he'll never leave
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