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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 23
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Wednesday night. Therefore, Wednesdays are Jim and
Linda's night together for sure. However, sometimes Jim's
wife will go out with her friends, or baby-sit for her
sister's children in another town on Friday or Saturday
night. Jim doesn't usually know until that day whether or
not his wife will be home in the evening, so Linda keeps
those evenings free in case Jim's wife goes out and in case
Jim calls her to tell her he's free.
Sometimes Jim and Linda will make plans to go to dinner or
catch a movie, and at the last minute he'll have to cancel
because his wife made plans for them that he wasn't aware
of. "I'm always expected to re-arrange my schedule to fit
his situation," she stated. "My friends have given up on
me. Even when I do make plans with my friends, I might
cancel them at the last minute to be with Jim. They don't
want to be treated like second class citizens, and, I
finally realized, neither do I."
Once, Linda ran out of gas on her way home from work. It
was about 5:30 in the evening and raining. She called Jim
for help from her cell phone. He said to her, "You know I'd
help you if I could, but I have to get home and change,
we're going to a dinner party tonight."
"At the time I said, 'That's OK, I understand', and I
called my emergency road-side service for help," Linda
related. "Now, I look back and think, 'What am I? An idiot?
A dinner party was more important than me being stranded at
the side of the road? Why couldn't he come help me and give
his wife some excuse?' I'm settling for whatever I can get,
and I ask myself, 'Why?'. If Jim were a single guy, there's
no way I'd stand for this kind of treatment. One date
canceled at the last minute, I
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might tolerate, but two or three? I'd never let a single
guy treat me this way. I let Jim get away with a lot
because of his "situation," somehow I think it's a
legitimate excuse. But really, why should I tolerate such
rude behavior?"
Suicidal Thoughts -Brenda admits she tried to kill herself
once in the 17 years she's been involved with Dan. "I was
just so miserable," she says, "I couldn't understand why he
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