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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 22
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mates and because she felt so close to him, she wanted to
bear his children. At first, Walter told her that he didn't
want any children. Then, as Christiana continued to bring
up the subject, he said that he certainly didn't want to
have them with his wife, but if he ever did want children,
it would be with Christiana. Christina took this as a
commitment that they would have a family together. In
retrospect Christiana realizes that Walter never committed
to having children with her. The most he had ever committed
to was saying that if there came a time when he would want
them, he'd want them with her. When Christiana was told by
her gynecologist that if she ever intended to have
children, she should start soon due to potential medical
problems, Christiana began to have feelings of desperation
about her
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relationship with Walter. When would he leave his wife?
When could they begin their life? How many years before she
could have his child? What if was too late? Why wouldn't he
leave his wife for her, knowing how badly she wanted his
child and knowing that time was running out for her? She
admits, "I lost so many night's sleep consumed with
thoughts about why he wasn't as committed to our
relationship, and having a family, as I was."
"I thought I could win him over with great sex," she
continued. "I believed that if our love making were 100%
better than the sex he had with his wife, it would only be
natural that he would leave her for me. I was so desperate
to make each of our encounters better than the last -more
imaginative, longer, more exotic -he would see how
desperately I loved him, and he would naturally love me
that much in return."
Loss of Self Esteem - Linda and Jim have been involved for
two and a half years. Linda feels that she's given all of
her "self" to Jim, and has gotten little in return. Over
the course of their affair she has given up -or lost -most
of her friends, and has no social life outside of her get-
togethers with Jim. Linda's relationship with Jim depends
on Jim's availability. Jim's wife attends a cooking class
every
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