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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 19
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time relationship with a married man.
While there are always exceptions to the rule, the vast
majority of extramarital affairs cause pain, anguish,
despair and a loss of self-esteem and self
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respect. Chapter four will tell you more about the reality
of extramarital affairs.
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Chapter 4
The Reality of Dead-End Affairs
That which does not kill you, makes you stronger
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his chapter must be read with an open mind. You will need
to take a look at yourself and your relationship with a
critical eye. It's time to evaluate your relationship is
it going anywhere? Do you want it to?
The women interviewed for this book used the following
words to describe their emotions during their affairs:
desperation, loneliness, loss of self esteem, anger,
jealousy, depression, anxiety, betrayal, suicidal thoughts,
distraction, bouts of crying, loss of control,
vulnerability; in addition to citing physical symptoms such
as weight loss and health problems and addictions such as
drinking, drugs, smoking, eating or shopping. (There are
self help books regarding addictions, obsessive and
compulsive behaviors that should be utilized, if you find
this pertains to you. We recommend a few books in the
Suggested Readings section.)
Life with a married man, while he stays married, will
always include pain. But, in a life without him,
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the pain will eventually dissipate. Which would you prefer?
As stated earlier, most affairs are not planned in
advance, they just "happen." Most women who involve
themselves with married men, enter into the affair
believing that they will maintain control, that they will
enter into it just to see "what it's like," or that they
will be able to maintain emotional distance from this man.
The reality is that once you have slept with him, you are
"hooked." You may not be hooked in an addictive sort of
way, but you are hooked in that you have stepped over the
emotional boundary you had once had to protect yourself.
Why does this happen? The primary reason is that women
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