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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 18
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reality and not a romantic illusion.
Not all affairs end in marriage; yet the parties involved
can still be content with the relationship. Not all women
want a commitment of marriage from their lovers, and not
all men are so unhappy at home that they are willing to
give up their marriage. When two individuals with this way
of thinking meet, they can have a long-term and fulfilling
affair.
Her Story:
Lois and Ted have been involved for four years. He is 20
years older than she and had been married eight years at
the time that they met. Ted has never told her that he will
leave his wife, and Lois doesn't really want him to. Lois
and Ted have two children together. Ted visits every
evening with Lois and the children; he supports them
financially and also pays for Lois' college tuition. Lois
has never attempted to end the affair. She maintains that
she
This Affair is Over!
is happy with her relationship with Ted, but admits that
"eventually" she will probably outgrow him and leave him.
While she is not unhappy, Lois wants to caution other
women, "Don't do it. I love Ted, but I would never get
involved with a married man again."
Her Story:
Ginny, a woman nearing 50, and Al, have been sporadically
involved for eight and a half years. Ginny is widowed and
Al has been married for almost thirty years. Ginny began in
the affair because she was looking for a friend and
companion. She is extremely content in the relationship.
She makes no demands of him, and likewise, he makes no
demands of her. She is able to come and go as she pleases,
without having to "answer" to anyone. Al has never promised
her that he would leave his wife and she has never asked
him to. Ginny stated that they both agree that if Al were
to leave, it would cost him too much money. They each cite
this reason as an explanation for the fact that the topic
of further commitment between them is never brought up.
Ginny and Al have each found the degree of fulfillment that
they are looking for in the affair. Ginny is representative
of one-half of a percent of the women surveyed. These women
are not looking for anything more meaningful than a part-
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