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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 17
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"look for signs of commitment and action from your lover.
When Michael told me he wanted to divorce his wife, and
then moved out of the home he shared with her shortly
thereafter, I knew that I was more than an affair to him. I
knew that he was willing to make a commitment to my
happiness, as well as his own."
This Affair is Over!
Look for these signs of commitment from your lover:
He offers no excuses about why he cannot leave (alimony,
child support, mortgage, in-laws)
He and his wife begin sleeping in separate rooms
He moves out of his home with his wife
He leaves his wife within one year of starting the affair
He is willing to "give everything up" -home, reputation -
and does so
He considers what's best for you, or what's best for both
of you, not just what is best for him
He doesn't move in to your place and doesn't assume he can
(he's not looking to you for support). He has the strength
to make his own choices and do what's best for him
He files for separation
He files for divorce
Her Story:
Tracy and Bob have been married for two years. They have
one child together. At the time of the start of their
affair, Bob had been married for nine months. They met at a
bar and were instantly attracted to one another. Although
at first Bob did not let Tracy know that he was married, he
admitted it on their fifth date. Tracy felt that being a
"mistress" would be unacceptable and told Bob the
relationship was over. They parted as friends, but
All Right,
Sometimes These Things Do Work Out
Bob frequently called and asked her out, telling her that
"she was the one for him." Tracy still continued to refuse.
Seven months after they stopped seeing each other, Bob left
his wife and moved into his own apartment. He called Tracy
and asked to meet her for dinner - he had something
important to tell her. She refused. He then asked her over
to his place for dinner. He had indeed been serious when he
said that he was unhappy in his marriage and that he wanted
to be with her. They dated for two years before marrying.
Tracy is comfortable that their marriage is grounded in
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