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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 16
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"everything my husband was not." Caitlin had been married
for three years, but admits to having doubts about long
term compatibility with her husband, even before their
marriage.
When Caitlin and Michael finally did make love, two months
after they had started seeing each other for drinks or
dinner on a regular basis, Caitlin felt that there "was
more to us than just that moment." Being with Michael
became Caitlin's sole focus. They talked on the phone
constantly, and got together every chance they could. Each
time they were together, it was harder to say good-bye.
Although Caitlin felt that she wanted more of a
relationship -and more of a commitment -with Michael, she
believed it was unrealistic since they were both married
and neither one was comfortable with the idea of divorce.
However, three months into their affair, Michael told her
that he couldn't take it anymore, that no matter what
happened, he could no longer live a "half-life." He drew up
a separation agreement with his wife and got an apartment
of his own.
Although Caitlin was thrilled, there was now the added
pressure that she, too, should do something
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about the marriage she was in. It took a few months
longer, but Caitlin also got an apartment of her own.
Caitlin stresses that although she and Michael wanted to be
together every minute, they purposely avoided living
together so that they had the time and space to sort
through their personal lives.
Their affair lasted for nine months, during which time
each separated, and then divorced their respective spouses.
It was not an easy time for either of them. Caitlin stated
that leaving her husband to start a life with Michael, "was
the most difficult thing I have ever done, but, it was
worthwhile in order to not be trapped in a marriage that
was unfulfilling."
Caitlin and Michael have been together for sixteen years,
have been married for thirteen, and have two daughters ages
nine and eleven. Although Caitlin and Michael now have a
happy life together, Caitlin cautions other women to look
closely for signs that your affair is more than an affair -
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