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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 11
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"something
different" Friendship/companionship To fill a void Fell in
love Pursued relentlessly by the married man
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If You Try Hard Enough, You Can Rationalize Anything
Chapter 2
If You Try Hard Enough,
You Can Rationalize Anything
"Autobiography in 5 short chapters"
Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in
the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't
my fault. It takes forever to find the way out.
Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep
hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in
again. I can't believe I'm in the same place, but...it
isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter 3: I walk down the same street. There is a deep
hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in.
It's a habit. Yet..my eyes are open, I know where I am. It
is my fault. I get out immediately.
Chapter 4: I walk down the same street. There is a deep
hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Chapter 5: I walk down another street.
Portia Nelson
n the previous chapter you were introduced to
women that represented different affair-
scenarios: long-term, short-term, still
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involved, no longer involved, etc. No matter what the
individual situation is, there seems to be a commonality
around extramarital affairs which involves the
lines/excuses that your loved one "feeds" you. The lines
that you hear involve when he'll leave his spouse, or the
conditions under which he'll leave his spouse.
The men involved in our case studies were nearly equally
split regarding their honesty about whether or not they
would leave their wives. Fifty three percent promised that
they would, while 45% never made any promises. Following
are listed some of the conditions under which the men said
they would leave their wives. Which have you heard?
After
The baby is born
My son/daughter turns 18
My son/daughter moves out
My child graduates
We close (he and wife) on our new house
My loan is paid off
The holidays are over
Fall/winter/spring/summer is over
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