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"This Affair is Over
Essential reading for any woman involved with a married man"
This Affair is Over, Take Back Your Life and End Your Affair with a Married Man. No judgments. No blame. Just the facts that will help to keep you from going back. Dr. Nanette Miner: Page 10
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about him. He's having an affair because it fuels his
needs. If you weren't there, someone else would be.
Her story:
Cindy has been involved in her affair with Brad for six
months. He told Cindy he would leave his wife when his son
"grows up." The two met at the gym where they both work
out. Cindy was involved in a lengthy relationship that
wasn't making her happy, and Brad's attention and fun-
loving manner was very attractive. They were friends and
training partners for nine months prior to any romantic
involvement. Brad is adamant that he will not leave his
marriage until his son is grown. Cindy is unwilling to
wait. She has attempted three times to end this affair.
Each time he said and did sweet things that won her back.
Cindy is experiencing weight loss, loneliness, anger,
depression, distraction, crying bouts, anxiety attacks and
a general feeling of being out of control of her own life.
She knows that this relationship is not going anywhere but
rationalizes that she will stay with Brad until something
better comes along. In reality,
This Affair is Over!
Cindy may be unable to see the potential for a new
relationship with anyone else, while she is consumed with
her relationship with Brad.
We want to stress that none of the women are unwilling
victims. They may be victims of poor choices, but they know
exactly the type of relationship they are in, and are
consciously continuing the relationship for one reason or
another.
The women interviewed for this book gave one or more of
the following reasons for getting involved in their affair.
Which of these apply to you?
Felt unloved
Felt unfulfilled
Believed that someone else could fulfill them
Believed that someone else could provide them with
happiness
Lonely
Attraction
Bored
Spent large amounts of time with a "friend" of the
opposite sex, discussing intimate feelings that are usually
reserved for loved ones (for example: the importance of
sex, children, values)
Looking for a distraction
Recently divorced Ran into an old boyfriend Curious
Conquest Just looking for sex Looking for a vague sense of
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